UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
If you are old enough to follow the Nigerian music scene in the 70s, 80s and beyond, especially the foreign music scene
you, no doubt, remember THE MUSICAL YOUTH you probably remember their chart buster “Pass the Dutchie”, that
certainly made some waves.
If you are familiar with music at about the same period also you definitely remember DONNA SUMMER, she was a big
star at that time, if you remember the group earlier mentioned and Donna, you may have heard their collaboration
“Unconditional Love” and if you, like me, love that song you most certainly will remember the lyrics:
“Give me your unconditional love, kind of love I deserve and kind I want to return”
The question is, is there such a thing as unconditional love?
Relevant definitions of the word unconditional by dictionary.com are as follows:
not limited by conditions; absolute: an unconditional promise.
Synonyms 1. complete, unqualified, categorical
not modified or restricted by reservations; "a categorical denial"; "a flat refusal" [syn:
not contingent; not determined or influenced by someone or something else
complete and absolute, and not dependent on certain terms or conditions
I am assuming we know what love is, but for the avoidance of doubt I should put the definitions of love, it’s only fair isn’t
it, just so we are on the same page as to what we are about to look at.
According to the same website love is:
a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person
a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
sexual passion or desire.
a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.
There are so many definitions of love, so much so that if I continue we might end up with a thesis on that subject, suffice
it to say unconditional love is a love that is freely given by one individual to another regardless of exterior consideration
and here, I am talking about love as between two people who wishes to obtain each other’s love forever and solidifying
same via the institution of marriage.
Some people are in love with love itself, it makes one’s heart beat quicker when you receive a phone call from the
person you have that kind of feeling for, a feeling that could turn an otherwise sane and rational person to insane and
irrational by an interested party an uninterested observant might be intrigued by the drama of love. Interested parties of
course are those who will feel insulted, alienated or humiliated by an act of love if they feel that it is directed towards
someone that they view as being undeserving of that feeling.
Take for example a rich man, he sure will feel insulted, humiliated and alienated if his only daughter falls in love with a
pauper. He also will feel that his daughter deserves better if he spends his hard earned money or not so hard earned in
educating his daughter and she chooses to marry someone who had never seen the four wall of an elementary school
more less a university.
Some fathers here in America for example do not see any good in a guy from a foreign country, regardless of his
qualifications, to them messing around with a foreigner means you are stupid or more appropriately crazy, so you have
a situation where a child comes to the world through these “incompatible” pair and that child ended up in the middle of a
war based on prejudice. To give that child a better life it might be better to just stay out of his life if that will ameliorate
the kind of hatred that some people will feel because his dad is a foreigner, I wonder what the situation will be if the dad
were to be an alien as portrayed on television. Is the action going to hurt the dad or the child? After all it is the child that
is being stripped of his heritage, his identity, something some individuals ended up paying thousands of dollars for just
to find out on ancestry.com and other such services.
I usually go to a particular dating site to send notes to ladies to adorn my website by being the queen of the week; I saw
one profile, one day that made me conclude that there could be nothing like unconditional love. Granted all the ladies
there require some qualities from you should you be interested in them.
I never really read their pages, since my intention is sending them a note to be queen of the week, but one did catch my
attention.
Have you ever ordered pizza on the phone, online or in person? What I saw on some of the profiles is not better than
ordering a pizza, especially when you need some specific toppings.
The particular profile that caught my eyes reads, roughly like this:
“if you are in Africa, or your parents are Africans, or you are originally from Africa please do not send me a note”
Does this look like something from a white lady, you probably jumped to that conclusion. The lady is not white, she is as
black as you and I, if you are black, if you are white or some other color as dictated by those who deemed it fit to color
human beings, then she is not like you. She is what is referred to as an African American and in your employment form
she will tick the same place as an African since most employment forms I have seen grouped black people thus:
“Black/African/African-American” or something of that nature.
Some African Americans whose daughters had children for Africans were also instructed not to give their children
African names, as if that will take anything away from the dad, the children, of course will be brought up as African
Americans or just Americans and that is because I once overheard a black American telling someone not to call her
African American, she is American period. Don’t be surprised if an African American refers to Africans as you people,
sounds like a white man to a black man? Well no, this is a black American referring to his supposedly brother in a
derogative manner.
Most of us are guilty of this kind of hate anyway so there’s no reason to blame others while cunningly exonerating
ourselves. I remember back home, guys see nothing wrong in a guy dating a girl from another part of the country but let
a girl from their own part of the country date a guy from outside that class and you see all sort of condemnations. If
guys are generous to overlook a relationship between a guy from another part of the country and a girl from their own
part of the country they sure will find it not only ridiculous but absolutely insane if the guy is not only from another part
of the country but also uneducated and the girl is, then of course she must be the most stupid person on the face of the
universe.
Is a matter of the heart not supposed to be private and are the parties involved not the best candidates to determine
what is best for them? Are we going to live other people’s lives for them? Is happiness not the main issue in a
relationship? If someone got married to another because of financial consideration would such relationship not end the
moment the financial security disappears? What is the essence of an educated abuser for example?
Take a look around you and tell me if indeed love reigns and if it does is there such thing as unconditional love?
you, no doubt, remember THE MUSICAL YOUTH you probably remember their chart buster “Pass the Dutchie”, that
certainly made some waves.
If you are familiar with music at about the same period also you definitely remember DONNA SUMMER, she was a big
star at that time, if you remember the group earlier mentioned and Donna, you may have heard their collaboration
“Unconditional Love” and if you, like me, love that song you most certainly will remember the lyrics:
“Give me your unconditional love, kind of love I deserve and kind I want to return”
The question is, is there such a thing as unconditional love?
Relevant definitions of the word unconditional by dictionary.com are as follows:
not limited by conditions; absolute: an unconditional promise.
Synonyms 1. complete, unqualified, categorical
not modified or restricted by reservations; "a categorical denial"; "a flat refusal" [syn:
not contingent; not determined or influenced by someone or something else
complete and absolute, and not dependent on certain terms or conditions
I am assuming we know what love is, but for the avoidance of doubt I should put the definitions of love, it’s only fair isn’t
it, just so we are on the same page as to what we are about to look at.
According to the same website love is:
a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person
a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
sexual passion or desire.
a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.
There are so many definitions of love, so much so that if I continue we might end up with a thesis on that subject, suffice
it to say unconditional love is a love that is freely given by one individual to another regardless of exterior consideration
and here, I am talking about love as between two people who wishes to obtain each other’s love forever and solidifying
same via the institution of marriage.
Some people are in love with love itself, it makes one’s heart beat quicker when you receive a phone call from the
person you have that kind of feeling for, a feeling that could turn an otherwise sane and rational person to insane and
irrational by an interested party an uninterested observant might be intrigued by the drama of love. Interested parties of
course are those who will feel insulted, alienated or humiliated by an act of love if they feel that it is directed towards
someone that they view as being undeserving of that feeling.
Take for example a rich man, he sure will feel insulted, humiliated and alienated if his only daughter falls in love with a
pauper. He also will feel that his daughter deserves better if he spends his hard earned money or not so hard earned in
educating his daughter and she chooses to marry someone who had never seen the four wall of an elementary school
more less a university.
Some fathers here in America for example do not see any good in a guy from a foreign country, regardless of his
qualifications, to them messing around with a foreigner means you are stupid or more appropriately crazy, so you have
a situation where a child comes to the world through these “incompatible” pair and that child ended up in the middle of a
war based on prejudice. To give that child a better life it might be better to just stay out of his life if that will ameliorate
the kind of hatred that some people will feel because his dad is a foreigner, I wonder what the situation will be if the dad
were to be an alien as portrayed on television. Is the action going to hurt the dad or the child? After all it is the child that
is being stripped of his heritage, his identity, something some individuals ended up paying thousands of dollars for just
to find out on ancestry.com and other such services.
I usually go to a particular dating site to send notes to ladies to adorn my website by being the queen of the week; I saw
one profile, one day that made me conclude that there could be nothing like unconditional love. Granted all the ladies
there require some qualities from you should you be interested in them.
I never really read their pages, since my intention is sending them a note to be queen of the week, but one did catch my
attention.
Have you ever ordered pizza on the phone, online or in person? What I saw on some of the profiles is not better than
ordering a pizza, especially when you need some specific toppings.
The particular profile that caught my eyes reads, roughly like this:
“if you are in Africa, or your parents are Africans, or you are originally from Africa please do not send me a note”
Does this look like something from a white lady, you probably jumped to that conclusion. The lady is not white, she is as
black as you and I, if you are black, if you are white or some other color as dictated by those who deemed it fit to color
human beings, then she is not like you. She is what is referred to as an African American and in your employment form
she will tick the same place as an African since most employment forms I have seen grouped black people thus:
“Black/African/African-American” or something of that nature.
Some African Americans whose daughters had children for Africans were also instructed not to give their children
African names, as if that will take anything away from the dad, the children, of course will be brought up as African
Americans or just Americans and that is because I once overheard a black American telling someone not to call her
African American, she is American period. Don’t be surprised if an African American refers to Africans as you people,
sounds like a white man to a black man? Well no, this is a black American referring to his supposedly brother in a
derogative manner.
Most of us are guilty of this kind of hate anyway so there’s no reason to blame others while cunningly exonerating
ourselves. I remember back home, guys see nothing wrong in a guy dating a girl from another part of the country but let
a girl from their own part of the country date a guy from outside that class and you see all sort of condemnations. If
guys are generous to overlook a relationship between a guy from another part of the country and a girl from their own
part of the country they sure will find it not only ridiculous but absolutely insane if the guy is not only from another part
of the country but also uneducated and the girl is, then of course she must be the most stupid person on the face of the
universe.
Is a matter of the heart not supposed to be private and are the parties involved not the best candidates to determine
what is best for them? Are we going to live other people’s lives for them? Is happiness not the main issue in a
relationship? If someone got married to another because of financial consideration would such relationship not end the
moment the financial security disappears? What is the essence of an educated abuser for example?
Take a look around you and tell me if indeed love reigns and if it does is there such thing as unconditional love?
